Hair-tivities
Correction: Marcel Grateau (who invented the hot comb) was a FrenchMAN.
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Episode Notes:
Intro [0:00-4:55]
SAC's Facts [4:56-7:53]
Discussion [7:54-17:53]
Blacktivity/Game [17:54-21:04]
Mona Lisa's Pieces [21:05-22:26]
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Transcript
I'm Shannon
Lisa:and I'm Lisa
Shannon:and you're listening to Blacktivities,
Lisa:a celebration of all things black
Shannon:black culture, black history,
Lisa:black perspectives, and black panache
Shannon:celebrating our blackness doesn't mean exclusion
Lisa:everybody's invited, but you gotta come in and have a seat.
Both:So let the Blacktivities begin.
Lisa:All right.
Lisa:Welcome back to Blacktivities.
Lisa:Are you returning with myself, Talisa, actually known as Mona Lisa the
Lisa:poet, and then the lovely, lovely Ms.
Lisa:Shannon.
Lisa:Welcome to episode two of a celebration of something great.
Lisa:With a side of positivity and a dash of panache.
Shannon:Remember, you're here to celebrate every other Thursday
Shannon:we're back with a new episode.
Lisa:Okay, so Shannon real quick.
Lisa:I have a title of this episode.
Lisa:I wanna title this Hair-tivities.
Lisa:[Okay.] So I feel like this is really, really fitting,
Lisa:considering something recently that happened to one of my children.
Lisa:I am a mother of three and, um, I have to say I have history.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:When it comes to hair doing my own hair, when I was younger, I had girls, you know,
Lisa:used to ride the bus home and I would put box braids in their hair when I was 12.
Lisa:So you would think that I was a master.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:A cosmetology master when it comes to hair.
Lisa:Mm, no, not this time.
Lisa:my youngest daughter.
Lisa:We decided that we was gonna do something a little different,
Lisa:like we gonna shake it up.
Lisa:I decided to braid her hair up.
Lisa:And instead of letting her natural hair just be free, I decided that, Hey,
Lisa:I'm gonna buy one of these little fake poom poom balls to sit at the top, you
Lisa:know, kind of cheating a little bit.
Lisa:Cause that's what we do.
Lisa:You know, go ahead and do her hair the night before the next day.
Lisa:I'm thinking.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:I have successfully conquered and masked her hair.
Lisa:I go on with my regular Workday.
Lisa:I go and pick her up.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:She gets in the car and she is highly upset with me.
Lisa:You wanna know why she's highly upset with me?
Lisa:She informed me that she was playing in gym and she felt something
Lisa:brush the back of her neck.
Lisa:And she was like, wait a minute.
Lisa:What was that?
Lisa:And she looked down and the poom poom ball, the Afro ball was laying on
Lisa:the ground in the middle of the gym.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:[Oh no] The school she goes to there, there was African Americans
Lisa:sprinkled throughout the school.
Lisa:There's not a whole big, you know, it's just sprinkled.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:So I was like, oh my God, like.
Lisa:What did you do?
Lisa:She said, mama, I picked it up off the floor.
Lisa:I put it up under my shirt and I just ran out the gym.
Lisa:I ain't ask nobody to go.
Lisa:I didn't ask for permission.
Lisa:I just ran.
Lisa:I was just like, where did you go?
Lisa:She said I went to the bathroom?
Lisa:And, I don't know.
Lisa:Somehow she ended up at the, at the school nurse.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:Now this was an emergency to where she was like, I gotta go to the school nurse.
Lisa:She said that the school nurse who is Caucasian put it back on and pinned it.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:She pinned it back on there.
Lisa:And I sat that in disbelief, like, oh my God, one, I did my baby like this.
Lisa:I did her dirty, I didn't secure the bun.
Lisa:first of all, but two someone that night, she was able to fix my baby.
Lisa:She saw my baby in distress and she was able.
Lisa:To assist her.
Lisa:So I wanna do a round of applause for that for her, you know, assisting my baby.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:[Most definitely.] Yes.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:Cause I embarrassed.
Lisa:I embarrassed the shit outta my child.
Lisa:[poor baby.] Yeah.
Lisa:Poor baby.
Lisa:I, I feel so bad when it comes to that.
Lisa:So when you have situations like this and.
Lisa:I know that I'm not the only person that have been in, you
Lisa:know, an embarrassing situation.
Lisa:Everyone has had their embarrassing hair story.
Lisa:It just comes with a territory and as crazy as it is, as it is, um, we still
Lisa:have to embrace this hair, this history and this free-ish choice of hair-tivities,
Lisa:which brings us to SAC's facts.
Lisa:Yes.
Shannon:Well, before we do SAC's Facts Talisa, I have to applaud
Shannon:you for being a mom of three girls, because I can tell you this.
Shannon:I have one girl and trying to do her hair.
Shannon:I feel like I need a drink.
Shannon:Like it's, it's
Shannon:a lot.
Lisa:Look, it's gonna get worse, but then it's gonna get better
Lisa:and they're gonna appreciate it.
Lisa:So you got this.
Shannon:Okay.
Shannon:Well.
Shannon:I'll just stay tuned then.
Shannon:all right.
Shannon:SAC's Facts.
Shannon:If you don't know you should, our hair has been one of our prized
Shannon:and distinct characteristics since we were still in the motherland.
Shannon:Before they brought us here.
Shannon:Our hair said a lot about our identity.
Shannon:You could tell who had the juice and who folks repped by their hairstyles.
Shannon:You could tell who was going to war and who was in mourning all by their hair.
Shannon:Some even believed that hair was spiritual and brought them closer to God.
Shannon:Our hair is part of our flair then and now.
Shannon:And people have been trying to dim our light since they brought our
Shannon:ancestors to this country and cut off their precious hair and enslaved them.
Shannon:In 1786 in Louisiana.
Shannon:They passed laws called Tignon laws.
Shannon:And it probably sounds different when I say it with my country accent, but
Shannon:that made us cover our hair because it became a threat to white women's
Shannon:security when they saw our beauty was catching the eyes of their men.
Shannon:But what did we do?
Shannon:We showed them that we are a whole mood by throwing our flair into those head wraps.
Shannon:We owned it and we still turned heads.
Shannon:When Louisiana became part of the U.S.
Shannon:In 1803, those laws went away, but we continued to wear our head wraps
Shannon:as a way to fight the powers that be.
Shannon:Post slavery in the 19th century, society said that if we wanted to be beautiful,
Shannon:We needed to straighten our hair.
Shannon:We started using chemicals and hot combs to do just that.
Shannon:And we owned it like we've done for centuries, but in the sixties
Shannon:and seventies, we said, we ain't going, y'all finna get these fros,
Shannon:and we finna get these rights.
Shannon:And once again, our hair became part of the protest.
Shannon:Meanwhile, our Marcus Garvey inspired Rastafarian friends in
Shannon:Jamaica started wearing dreadlocks in the 1930s as a part of a belief
Shannon:that the hair should not be cut.
Shannon:Today, we are still working that panache with our hair.
Shannon:Black hair is a multi billion dollar industry.
Shannon:Some of us have gotten off the creamy crack and...
Lisa:Oooh, don't do that.
Shannon:Some of us, some of us...
Shannon:and we're still wearing our hair anyway we want to.
Shannon:Long, short, fro, kinks, locks, wigs, weaves, all different colors.
Shannon:Hair is still a huge mode of expression in the black community.
Shannon:And that's SAC's Facts..
Lisa:All right.
Lisa:I love it.
Lisa:I love it.
Lisa:In the beginning, you said your hair, it represents us.
Lisa:What would you say your hair right now?
Lisa:Say about you.
Shannon:Uh...
Shannon:right now, I think my hair says.
Shannon:I D G A F.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:okay.
Lisa:Um, but with you, I think with your hair, the way it is, and if,
Lisa:I don't know if y'all seen her, her hair is short and she got it dyed.
Lisa:Oh my God.
Lisa:I'm in love with this color that she has on there.
Lisa:I think it, it, it does.
Lisa:It says that, but it shows again you're strong and the
Lisa:natural thing, it just with me.
Lisa:Yes, I do have a relaxer.
Lisa:I'm obsessed with the edges, but I know if I go natural, I'm gonna have to I'm lazy.
Lisa:I'm gonna have to like, try to figure out my whole edge game.
Lisa:Cause I like it swooped and stuff.
Lisa:Like [You like a swoop.] Yeah.
Lisa:Swoop.
Lisa:[Okay.] I think if I had to I'd be like, I'm on like a Josephine baker
Lisa:type thing right now with the shorts.
Lisa:[Okay.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:I got you.] So that that's like, that's the thing, but I know I wouldn't be
Lisa:able to achieve that look, you know what I'm saying with, with the natural.
Lisa:So...
Shannon:I mean, I had a really big fro and I love my really big fro, but [mm-hmm]
Shannon:I don't know how to do hair that great.
Shannon:So like, I would just wet it, put some product in there and just kind of
Shannon:like poof it out and that would be it.
Shannon:But then when I wake up, it's like smushed to the side of my head.
Lisa:Mm-hmm I have to applaud people with natural hair though.
Lisa:It's funny that we growing up, they say, okay, your hair, her hair is nappy.
Lisa:And they say that they, they point it out as being lazy.
Lisa:[Mm-hmm.] But my older two children, they're 20 and 16.
Lisa:And I sit and I watch them.
Lisa:The amount of money that they spend on hair products, what it takes like their
Lisa:process far as wash day, yo that's hours.
Lisa:Like I applaud them.
Lisa:[Oh yeah.] And it's like, I remember, you know, when they were younger doing
Lisa:their hair, like I was sitting here, man, my hand cramped up and I had to
Lisa:do both of their hair back to back.
Lisa:Sundays was the wash day, you know?
Lisa:So.
Lisa:I have to applaud it.
Lisa:It it's more than less when it comes to lazy people with the relaxing stuff.
Lisa:That's lazy.
Lisa:No, no people with natural hair.
Lisa:I give y'all the emoji, the, the strong arm emoji I have
Lisa:to, because it is amazing.
Lisa:It is so amazing.
Shannon:My baby girl, she has an awesome curl pattern.
Shannon:[Mm-hmm] but it also gets tangled cuz she is four and she just refuses
Shannon:to keep the bonnet on at night.
Shannon:But yeah, it takes hours to wash and do her hair [mm-hmm] and
Shannon:all the while she's like, owww...
Shannon:mommy, it hurts.
Lisa:With head wraps and the braids and the crowns, and like the shells
Lisa:we was used to put in the hair and to kind of like represent us.
Lisa:What place does the wigs and the lace fronts represent today?
Lisa:Is it a strong like statement as the head wraps and you know, the
Lisa:shells on the end of the beads?
Lisa:And dreadlocks?
Lisa:Is it, does it give the same message in your opinion?
Shannon:I don't know, I think wigs and weaves and lace fronts.
Shannon:Like, I think it's kind of just another statement of our creativity, because
Shannon:it's like the possibilities for the way we do our hair are like endless,
Shannon:cuz even now, like my hair is short and you would think, okay, well she
Shannon:can't do much with it, but you know, I might come in with long hair one day.
Lisa:Let me tell, let me tell you baby, if y'all know where I work at.
Lisa:Dem white men where I work at baby.
Lisa:They love it.
Lisa:When I come and I be short one day Halle Berry, and the
Lisa:next day be long to my butt.
Lisa:They come peeping at me.
Lisa:It's cool.
Lisa:But I, I, I totally agree with you.
Lisa:I do agree with you far as like switching it up.
Shannon:Just don't come asking me, is that my real hair?
Shannon:[Right?] Cause I'm gonna give you the side eye.
Lisa:You know, it ain't like, Ugh.
Lisa:What about the trend of men getting lace fronts?
Shannon:Now, I don't know about that.
Shannon:I don't know about that.
Lisa:Could you, could you that, that's what we need to ask people,
Lisa:ask women, could you go on a date with the man that, you know, has
Lisa:a lace front on his head or beard?
Lisa:They even doing the beard joints.
Lisa:I've seen the videos.
Lisa:I just...
Lisa:don't tell me.
Lisa:I don't wanna know.
Lisa:What if, what if like, OK.
Lisa:I know you're married, but I'll just say, okay.
Lisa:For women out there.
Lisa:What if you're like out on a date and a dude that has a lace front
Lisa:has an embarrassing moment, like my child did, like, what would you say?
Lisa:Would you say, oh, would you help him out and be like, yo, your beard coming up?
Lisa:You know what I mean?
Lisa:like, what would you do?
Lisa:Like, would you mash his edges down?
Lisa:Like, cause the glue coming up, like what would you help?
Lisa:[Oh no...] we need to ask.
Lisa:We need to ask so they can, yeah, we, we going, we gonna open it up so we can...
Shannon:We're gonna take that to social media.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:Cause that right there, I don't know.
Lisa:It'll throw me for a loop.
Shannon:It would me too, cause I wouldn't be expecting it.
Lisa:Right, right.
Lisa:So I'm gonna ask you a question when it comes to perms versus being natural
Lisa:in your opinion, before I share, what do you think men's preference is?
Shannon:Hmm.
Shannon:I don't know, because I feel like a lot of men are embracing the natural styles.
Shannon:I feel like a lot of men like that exotic look and so they go for these women that
Shannon:wear the long lace fronts and stuff.
Shannon:[Mm-hmm.] So, I don't know.
Lisa:I asked a couple men, do they prefer nappy, natural, or straight hair.
Lisa:Now I did have one gentleman correct me.
Lisa:He said now baby, it ain't nothing nappy.
Lisa:He said you could use the term natural, but ain't nothing nappy.
Lisa:I said, I clutch my pearls.
Lisa:I said, OK, OK.
Lisa:Cat daddy, where we going?
Lisa:you know what I mean?
Lisa:But this is what he said.
Lisa:He said, I'm not sure where this falls, but first I like a woman with clean hair.
Lisa:[Okay.] And I was like, okay.
Lisa:He said, if it is natural, straight, it really don't matter.
Lisa:He said, I like her scalp to smell good.
Lisa:And as long as she's presentable, she is totally my type.
Lisa:Long as she makes it work for her.
Lisa:And I was like, okay.
Lisa:[Yeah.] Okay.
Lisa:I can hear that.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:Okay.
Shannon:He just want her to be clean.
Lisa:Now another gentleman said I prefer natural.
Lisa:I think it is very sexy for a woman to have a fro.
Lisa:And I was like, okay, another guy said he prefers natural.
Lisa:Now I purposely asked a gentleman who is not African American, his preference.
Lisa:[Okay.] And he said he prefers straight hair.
Lisa:[Okay.] I don't wanna say that's to be expected, but now this character,
Lisa:this is the one that corrected me.
Lisa:and I hope that we can get him on cuz he is very hilarious.
Lisa:His TikTok is booming.
Lisa:He said that I don't like to use the term nappy.
Lisa:When talking about women or black people in general, I would
Lisa:say textured or course hair.
Lisa:I love when women hair is natural, the fros the natural hair entices me.
Lisa:He was like, however you say it, but that's my thing.
Shannon:Okay.
Shannon:So team natural.
Shannon:Okay.
Lisa:Yeah.
Lisa:Yeah.
Lisa:I'm still getting a relaxer.
Lisa:I don't care what y'all say.
Lisa:Ain't nan one of them paying my bills.
Lisa:The men that I asked, they natural is the thing.
Lisa:But my thing is when you see like rap videos or like men, like they don't,
Lisa:you don't see natural women out there.
Lisa:If, if I'm wrong, correct me, but you always see the lace
Lisa:fronts and the straight hair, like that's, that's what you see.
Lisa:[Mm-hmm] and long eyelashes.
Shannon:Mm-hmm.
Shannon:Yeah, but some of y'all taking it too far with them eyelashes,
Shannon:but that's a different...
Lisa:Yeah, that's a D no, I was gonna do it.
Lisa:I said, no.
Lisa:Anyway, I was happy to, you know, Ask these men, their opinions
Lisa:and it, it really did it.
Lisa:It shocked me to hear that men really prefer women with natural hair.
Lisa:It intrigued me like, okay, maybe I should kind of like try it out, but I'm scared.
Lisa:I'm gonna cut mine off of my head.
Lisa:Gonna be shaped funny.
Lisa:Like, you know how you get the peanut M&Ms.
Shannon:It won't, your hair's already short.
Shannon:It won't.
Lisa:All right.
Lisa:What do you think about.
Lisa:I know you had bought this up to me, hairstyles that are renamed and rebranded,
Shannon:like boxer braids?
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:The Kim Kardashian braids.
Lisa:I said, I wasn't gonna say her name.
Shannon:Them is not her braids.
Shannon:we've been doing that.
Lisa:Right, right.
Lisa:I look at that, like the two braids to the back.
Lisa:That's when your granny didn't feel like doing that and your mama done
Lisa:dropped you off at your granny house.
Lisa:She's like, come in here, get that combed.
Lisa:And she know the Vaseline and she parted the middle braid two braids to the back.
Lisa:You outside and play.
Lisa:Kimberly was nowhere around then.
Shannon:I got no words for that...
Shannon:no words.
Lisa:So how about this?
Lisa:Let's do a little trivia.
Lisa:So let's see if you are up on your hair-tivities.
Lisa:Again, this is just a couple.
Lisa:All right.
Lisa:First off.
Lisa:How can we talk about hair without mentioning first millionaire,
Lisa:Madam CJ Walker, African American entrepreneur, activist, philanthropist.
Lisa:Did she create the hot comb?
Lisa:True or false.
Lisa:She did.
Lisa:Did she create it?
Lisa:Yeah.
Lisa:People say she did.
Shannon:I don't think she did though.
Lisa:Yep.
Lisa:That is true.
Lisa:People give her credit for creating a hot comb and she didn't.
Lisa:Now she may have took the idea and ran with it and threw
Lisa:some other stuff with it.
Lisa:But no, she did not create the hot comb far as that devil hot comb
Lisa:that killed me mostly on Easters.
Lisa:It was created by a French woman in the late 1800s by the name of Marcel Grateau.
Lisa:I think that's how you say her name.
Shannon:Every little black girl can smell that hot comb and the burnt....
Lisa:Mm-hmm let me tell you, we, we, we get like shell shock.
Lisa:Like if we hear a sizzle, we just like, we kind of like move our head
Lisa:over, like, ah, it'll be nothing.
Lisa:It be like a, it could be like a gnat or something.
Lisa:All right.
Lisa:True or false.
Lisa:You can still find Madam CJ Walker hair products in stores today.
Shannon:I'm gonna say that's true.
Lisa:Yes.
Lisa:Ma'am.
Lisa:That is true.
Lisa:You can find these products mostly online at Amazon.
Lisa:Obviously they have everything.
Lisa:It's the portal of everything [mm-hmm] Walmart and supposedly
Lisa:Sephora carries some things too.
Lisa:I'm gonna go.
Shannon:Okay.
Shannon:That one's surprising.
Lisa:Mm-hmm I'm gonna go research that.
Lisa:All right, one more...
Lisa:true or false Shea Moisture and Carol's Daughter is black owned..
Shannon:Just based off the fact that there are a lot of
Shannon:companies that are black started, but then they get bought by...
Lisa:Look at you.
Shannon:Other companies I'm gonna say no.
Lisa:That...
Lisa:that's the...
Lisa:that's right.
Lisa:And Cantu Cantu also no longer black owned?
Lisa:Nope.
Lisa:Nope.
Lisa:Nope.
Lisa:And I think that's fascinating that, I mean, would you start a
Lisa:business and like, is there a dollar sign on you that you could just
Lisa:be like, you know what I'm done?
Shannon:Absolutely.
Lisa:Okay.
Lisa:Well, boom, there you have it.
Shannon:Buy me out.
Lisa:I think I have to like still put in a contract cuz it's your vision, you know,
Lisa:put in a contract like you can't make any changes, like don't, don't go out the.
Shannon:That part would be hard, but then when you have your millions and
Shannon:mm-hmm, you sitting out on the beach, you might not kinda cared that much.
Lisa:Yeah.
Lisa:That kind of does like trump it all.
Lisa:I think it's time for Mona Lisa's pieces.
Lisa:I had to title this piece that I wrote Hair-tivities.
Lisa:So just, just come vibe with me.
Lisa:Smiling from ear to ear grin, just as big as the Nile.
Lisa:Smirk on how the changing appearance have their curiosity coiled around
Lisa:hostile thoughts of melanin style influences, random minds, whatever
Lisa:compels you to do it well, do it.
Lisa:Chin up.
Lisa:Forever confident.
Lisa:He doesn't need hair for that.
Lisa:She doesn't either.
Lisa:Strong fist crouching nigga it's more than reciprocating the fro and the figure.
Lisa:The chemistry mixed up in a glass bunsen burner.
Lisa:Then poof, the smoke clears and the swag's the winner.
Lisa:Pin him first.
Lisa:The fair has been won and everyone agrees it was the one who was able to square up.
Lisa:No matter what, all eyes will never blink twice.
Lisa:They watching.
Lisa:So look your best at all times.
Lisa:No sweat.
Lisa:Just continue with success.
Lisa:Marcus Garvey said, you must remove the kinks from your mind, but not your hair.
Lisa:Mona.
Shannon:All right.
Shannon:Yes.
Shannon:I love it.
Lisa:Yay.
Lisa:Thanks.
Lisa:Well, this party's coming to a end today, but let 'em know
Lisa:where they can continue to party.
Shannon:Come on out to the cookout.
Shannon:We saving you a plate.
Shannon:It's already wrapped up.
Shannon:Uh, you can check the show notes for links to our Patreon, social media, the articles
Shannon:we use for SAC's Facts, and to get your own blacktivitees and other merch it's all
Shannon:in the show notes, everything is there.
Shannon:Gonna have some conversations going around this hair thing too cuz there's a lot
Shannon:more that we did not talk about today.
Shannon:[Yes.] And we wanna hear from y'all.
Shannon:But until then...